Tell us a little about yourself and what you do.
My name is Khe Hy, and i am the creator of the blog and newsletter called RadReads, and I teach the course “Supercharge Your Productivity” which contains frameworks for life well lived.
How old are your kid(s)?
My daughters are seven and four.
Who is the primary caregiver in the household, and what are you and your partner’s parenting philosophy?
The primary caregiver is definitely my wife, but I have designed my career around being flexible on being around, so while we don't equal co-parent, I do pride myself on being able to attend to all of our kids' needs. Not as well as my wife, but a good second fiddle.
My wife is also an artist, so as our kids get older, we are trying to reincorporate her art back into our daily routine.
What's your favourite moment in the day with your kid(s)?
By far, morning snuggles! When I am up earlier in the day, I'm having my coffee, reading the paper, the girls would come in, they are warm, half asleep, hair all messed up and they ask for a snuggle.
How do you keep yourself sane?
Thanks to the way we designed our lives, I have a lot of flexibility for what I would call self-care. Those activities might be meditation, reading, surfing, fitness, yoga, and really carving that time out in advance is key. With my wife, we also have weekly walking dates, which we feel is less stressful than a date. It gets us moving and it keeps us outdoors. We've been able to do it weekly for the past 2.5 years now.
Best tech tip on parenting. This can be apps / hardware / gear you use, and how you use them.
The best tip is actually what I call "anti-tech". We all turn out phones off 90 minutes before we go to bed. Also the Apple Watch and Siri combination has helped me keep off my phone.
Most helpful advice you've received as a parent.
Never for a minute wish that your kid was an older age.
Sometimes you would say things like "I wish they are walking", "I wish they were eating", "I wish they were sleeping through the night", but really they will get there and before you know it you'll miss that time from before.
What lessons do you not want your kid(s) to learn?
Probably entitlement, that would be the big one.
What was the best lesson you learned from your child?
The lesson of unconditional love. There were parts of me that I did not embrace, and watching my daughters glossed over that like it doesn't mean a damn thing is quite beautiful.
What is your proudest dad moment?
There are so many! Seeing her perform at her dance recitals will be one of them.
If you could ask anyone, dead or alive, for their best parenting tip, who and what would that be?
I'd probably say Michelle Obama. I was just so impressed with her as a professional woman, and mom. She just has incredible wisdom, for what their kids went through and they seem quite normal as a family.
How do you manage technology exposure for your child/children?
We manage that with an iron fist (chuckle)! We don't really let them watch YouTube unless it's with us. They do listen to a lot of music on Spotify and other streaming services, and they only have iPads during travel.
What hobbies do you and your children share?
Impromptu dance parties! My eldest daughter and I are learning to draw together on YouTube. We are also learning how to code using an app called Kodable.
Finally, your best dad joke!
Oh man, there are so many but i can't even remember them now! I'm going to have to get back to you on this one.