Mike Milne - Tech Recruiter, Founder
"As with every relationship, you have to put the work in."
Tell us a little about yourself and what you do.
I'm a British national of Eurasian heritage who co-founded Kaishi Partners (a recruitment firm for Startups / VC's across South-East Asia and MENA)
How old are your kid(s)?
Three boys who are 6, 4, and 9 months
Who is the primary caregiver in the household, and what are you and your partner’s parenting philosophy?
A combination of my wife, myself, and our helper of 7 years Shella
What's your favourite moment in the day with your kid(s)?
First thing when they wake up. Often it's myself and the three boys together from 5.30 to around 7.30am as we're all larks, and that time will include playing together, breakfast, or even a run / scoot!
How do you keep yourself sane?
Exercising a couple of times per week, no email app on my phone, and using the Calm app daily. Learning mindfulness the past couple of years has been a game changer.
Best tech tip on parenting. This can be apps / hardware / gear you use, and how you use them.
We use the Calm app as they're getting ready to go to bed. Specifically we do the daily meditation and breathing exercises together, followed by one of the kids' sleep stories.
Most helpful advice you've received as a parent.
I expected an innate and easy bond with my kids. After struggling to connect with my eldest for the first few months a friend pointed out that as with every relationship, you have to put the work in, and it completely changed my approach for the better.
What lessons do you not want your kid(s) to learn?
I don't want them to do something for our sake as parents, or because everyone else thinks it's a good idea. I'd love them to follow their own ideas and passions, and am a fan of opposing politics and discussions and debates from an early age.
What was the best lesson you learned from your child?
I'm not the most patient person, but they're teaching me to be a lot better at it!
What is your proudest dad moment?
Two years ago we moved to the west of Singapore for school, and seeing my naturally shy boys on their first day stroll in confidently without looking back really struck me.
If you could ask anyone, dead or alive, for their best parenting tip, who and what would that be?
The nature vs nurture debate I find so interesting, and although he's not a parent, discussing it with Steven Pinker would be a great lesson I feel.
How do you manage technology exposure for your child/children?
No YouTube or watching TV on iPads or iPhones are our biggest ones, as they're just so addictive. When they get older we'll naturally flex, and use time limits etc. I like the one-charge iPad idea though.
What hobbies do you and your children share?
Sports. I do rugby together with my 4 year old, and my eldest plays football, tennis and cricket. The baby is just striving not to be the ball for the other two (laugh).
Finally, your best dad joke!
What did the Daddy buffalo say to his son when he left for work?